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Cake day: July 17th, 2024

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  • I think in general people gawking at one another is not only training us to react to things that challenge us with bullying (mockery) but equally it doesn’t help us grow as a people. I hate racist, I don’t benefit a damn thing from hanging with racists. But I will also say that racism is there. I am not going to pretend it’s not. And I will also say that by thinking/talking/etc. feeding the media machine and filling it with someone’s name you basically increase the chatter about them. Which I suppose you can see right now.

    But that all together I would love the face of the internet to change because I think we’re too prone to low-level jeering. And I think we can do better as a people. Which I would say is why I have never been on 4Chan and was very happy to leave Reddit. Because people who communicate like that in real life a fucking assholes. And I don’t really want to be a part of that. Putting someone down, to pick myself up.





  • Oh sigh, I didn’t catch it first go round because I didn’t really care that much but I knew so many human beings who came out as “bisexual” first me included because being gay all the way would have been too risque. I was watching…I think it was Clerks. Yeah, for sure it was Clerks. And 1/2 the jokes in there were homophobic. And the reason why I say this was because at the time to be gay was to be deformed, perverse, you were a broken hell-destined human being. At least if you had one leg in the door you’d be okay. But at the end of the day idk? I am not Freddie Mercury. I wasn’t raised in any which white way and I for sure did not listen to Queen or the Beatles until I was an adult. I have zero skin in the game and I don’t really care to speculate about dead celebrities, let alone celebrities on any large or real scale. But I will say that there was a ton of things that people had to go through back in the day that I think people had to hide or overcome through non-traditional pathways that would be less of an issue nowadays. Although it still is to some point, and I’d say it’s probably a ripple effect of culture x toxic-masculinity.



  • Gay men always sang in a straight way, hinted in a straight way did all sorts of stuff in a straight way because it’s what sells, it was what was expected and it was what was normal. Have you seen a gay man’s ass? They’re far more fantastic than any woman’s. They just do it right =P! Mind you, I’m a dyke, so this is me speaking out of love. But a simple place to point would be Labi Siffre. Who is also from the same time period and area abouts. He sang about women all the damn time, but that man had two partners he loved very dearly and neither were as such. While I can’t point one way or another I will say not only was it a different time but even within the gay scene it was a different culture. People did what they needed to do, or thought they should do - in order to cope. And for sure when I came out I was still rolling through waves of it too. It’s why I am glad queers nowadays (not as a whole but more so than ever before) can just be big old fagolas and what have you. But there’s still more work to be done. I haven’t really been a part of THE CULTURE for a min, so it’s all kinda foggy. But I will say in general, for sure I have seen some real “cover-up” stories for people just trying to do what’s right. But either way you’re entitled to your opinion and I am entitled to mine. I don’t really give a ploop about Freddie Mercury as a whole other than that man could sing. Cause he could. S’all.


  • It was a different time and she was more than likely a wig. Which pending I have my slang right (I’m thinking older school gay stuff where men used to marry women for society and then fuck around with men outside of the marriage) means she is a marriage of convenience. But really as far as I know she was basically his hag, and he loved her deeply. Gay remorse stuff - but sometimes people get tired of being “weird and different” and wish they could just be “normal” and things could just “work they way they were ‘supposed’ to work”. And yeah, he could have been wickedly bisexual. And bisexuals - you have every right to exist (and I think there’s more of you than are accounted for. But honestly, it used to be a constant back in the day and I have met a handful of actual wigs who love their gay ass husbands but understand that theirs are a marriage of convenience. At least, the majority of them do.

    (p.s. - My gal and I actually think Robert Preston might have been bisexual. But only he *and anyone he slept with if he did sleep with both sides* would ever know. But he for sure was a swell advocate none-the-less. And I don’t think being a song and dance man instantly makes you a sister. Likewise, he might just understand the idea of loving a man and a woman on equal terms as I always joke sexuality ends up having nothing to do with who you could fuck but more so who you could love. But that’s my hot take. Also those two guys from ROPE(!) that Hitchcock flick were gay as hell. And I think they were billed as bisexual. And I think Hitchcock was probably of the lifestyle too, but eh. Who knows?)

    (p.p.s. - Oh shit wifey said wigs is for dykes and beards is for gays. Hahahaha! She laughed her ass off at me =P!)



  • Y, I had an adopted papi (rip) by the by (as in found family) and he was a custodian too before he retired. And he worked at a hospital and did very well for himself. I guess one more is that I knew a guy who once was attending university, dropped out and now sweeps floors for a living and he’s WAY happier doing that than keeping up with the joneses like you have to do at a private university. I myself have worked all sorts of gigs, and enjoy a solid sweeping or three =)!

    One last one, little sneak in here - in that I have always been good at flitting too and fro and some of my favorite people to talk to growing up were custodians, because they were like the invisible folks of the school but depending on if I was “in hiding” or “visible” I could always find comfort and fun stories with the custodians =)!

    My buddy is a TA, and does well for themselves even though they struggled for years to find a place to fit in. People always talk about what a nightmare it is to be in the school system but I know a handful of people who really love it. I think you’ve got to just be a realist in this department. Either way, high-five =)!